I have been receiving subtle hints from, well, the world, that being a stay-at-home mom is lame. That it is, somehow, less than. That it diminishes or marginalizes the woman. That it makes her powerless. The world asks me why I would want to do such a thing. And I'm not even a mom. Yet.
I have also been receiving subtle hints from this same world that a girl getting an education is lame. "Why are you going to school?" the world asks me, time and time again. "Well, what are you going to do with an English degree?" or, my favorite, "So, you're just going to school now, huh?"
Well, these questions plagued me. They beat me down, made me feel bad. And angry. I didn't think my desires were THAT unusual, but it seemed everyone I shared them with looked at me with pity or scorn in their eyes. Then yesterday, as I was at home, my own special place in the world, I heard these words:
"Don't ever sell yourself short as a woman or as a mother. It never ceases to amaze me that the world would state that the woman is in a form of servitude which does not allow her to develop her gifts and talents. Nothing, absolutely nothing could be farther from the truth. Do not let the world define, denigrate, or limit your feelings of lifelong learning and the values of motherhood in the home both here mortally and the eternal and learning benefits you give to your children and to your companion. Life long learning is essential to the vitality of the human mind, body, and soul which enhances self worth and self actuation."
-Robert D. Hales
My dear, dear friend, Leslie, recently posted about how things are not coincidences in life. Answers and strength come to us from a loving Heavenly Father who knows us each. Hearing Elder Hales' talk yesterday told me that I was on the right path for me and my family, it also told me that Heavenly Father knew what was bouncing around in this little brain of mine.
So, to you world, the answer is yes. I am JUST going to school now. And when I'm done with that, I'm JUST going to be a stay-at-home mom. A smart one. I'm not going to get up at the butt crack of dawn to go answer phones for my boss and schedule his massage appointments. I AM however, going to get up at the butt crack of dawn to wipe some little teeny butt cracks. And I will love it all the while.
So you know what, world? You can eat dirt. And schedule your own massages.
I love learning. That's why I'm going to school. I want to learn forever, until my brain has sucked up information to its fullest capacity. I will probably go to school for the rest of my life. And while I'm doing that, I want to love and teach my children.
Lesson number one will be about priorities.